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  • 1Family problems- new in law and my own mother?

    My brother recently got married and had a son . They were only dating a little less than a year before they became pregnant . Of course , my mom , being that this was her first grandchild , was super excited . She has done everything for them , we've all tried to help as much as we can know hthe baby and her new apartment . Before my brother met her , my mother had all our cars to its name in the insurance. Even with my brothers bad accident history , she still helped him out and sure under your name . He is now married and his wife does not have a valid New York State . My mother has been asked many times if you have a license , and told my mother did . Finally my mom asked my brother to show him the license and my brother called my mother back and basically said he had none . My mom freaked out , if she had gotten into an accident with a license could have lost my mother evertyhting property , which is not much to begin with.

  • 2Problems with my mother...?

    I'm 25, and my mom is super uninterested in my two kids. She's never babysat for me, when she sees them, she says hi to them, but doesn't hug or kiss them. Even in desperate situations, like when my husband got into a car accident, and broke his hip, totalled our car, and I was 8 1/2 mo pregnant and I had to go to the ER for my husband, she still wouldn't watch my son, bc she "had to work"..... she owns her own business, it's something she totally could've postponed! She has never been there for me (well she used to when I was younger). She gets drunk several times a week, and puts me at the end of her list. Her business, and drinking is more important to her than everything else. So, how do I get to a point where I just grow up and stop "needing" her? I have a wonderful mother-in-law, who goes out of her way just to see her grandkids, who lights up when she sees them, and whose always there when we are in need. I have a great relationship with her, so why isn't that enough for me?

  • 3How do you tell off your mother in law without hurting you relationship with the whole family?

    My husband recently had a car accident with my car ( we work in different cities ) and we needed a car to use , so I would not have to get a rental car ... his mother has 2 cars and not using custom let me use one . However, my family always helped us with everything they need without even asking his family and the only time we asked to help us practice . I understand that 's not your problem , but I think I get a lot because when they need help or need something to jump with money ... helping to move ... trouble speaking through everything they need .... Now my husband and his mother does not speak and she just said well your loss ...... any suggestions ?

  • 4Family problems, please help?

    Hey, Please read this, I need help - this depression is affecting my life dramatically ... what should I do? About a year ago, I let my dad borrow about $ 4,000 because it was in really tough times. I had worked all summer as an EMT (who had won my cert last summer). I became an EMT to explore the medical field, and I want to be a doctor. Anyway, my brother is a football player, and they live at home. While I worked, he practiced, and made no money. So, at the end of the summer, my father had to ask my entire savings (to pay taxes, and for payment of home). Soon after, I lost my job (layed off). I've been in hard times too, but my father has been paying for everything I needed. At this point, at this time, because it actually has paid a total of $ 1,000 (which paid for my needs during that year, while I was unemployed). So here's my problem. I'm not crazy I had to give my father the money. In fact, I think if I was an only child, I would have been happy to give him. What I'm crazy about ... I can not stop thinking ... is the fact that while my brother has to spend his time playing football (the two go to a community college, and both hope to transfer), you could get a scholarship, I was working. Since you probably will not get a scholarship (although I have a 3.9 GPA with 60 college credits taken), since I'm not an athlete, I'm starting to resent the fact that my dad take the money from me. It does not seem fair. My brother spent little time on the job, no money is earned, and therefore was asked to contribute nothing to the family. Because I've worked (although I was working for my future, just differently), I lost everything. Now basically lost a whole summer, I have no money to buy a car when I go to college, and I

  • 5Family problems with will and testament of father?

    Two days ago, my uncle George died in a car accident. He was moving his great-granddaughter and granddaughter. His daughter Reba was driving (she is fine, although abusing her pain killers). As soon as possible, Georges other two daughters, Debbie and Bobbie, flew down to his town to be with family and take care of everything. Now, the granddaughter (who WAS moving) decided that very night that she wants to take his house. And before Debbie and Bobbie could get there, the granddaughter and her mother Reba went through Georges house and took as many valuables, his credit cards, anything they could find. They also took his will and testament. Reba has convinced Bobbie that it would be okay for her daughter to move in, "because she doesnt want her to carry any guilt". (might i add that her daughter has many many abusive, alcoholic, druggie boyfriends and she loves to party, hence the reason she was kicked out of her last house) Debbie is against it, along with the rest of the family, who do not have a say because it is now technically the three daughters' house. My question is, does there need to be an attorney to read the will (which Reba won't show anyone)? If the granddaughter gets the house, she will take everything. I am not super opinionated about it all, but am just saying it how I see it. How can the other family, like myself, get involved fairly? Should there be a mediator (like one of George's brothers or sisters) who should read it and decide what he would have wanted? Ugh it is just sad it had to come to this. Thank you for reading and hope to get some advice.

  • 6Broke up with my ex last year. there was many problems with his family?

    I had a traumatic brain injury in a car accident two years ago which I think is why we split up and also caused problems with family . I'm still angry about what happened but I'm going with her. The thing is that now I hear from mutual friends, etc. I am getting the blame for everything . As my ex, my brother , who always refused to talk to me and now it has made ​​everyone think it was always my fault . It should not matter , but I've had enough problems and do not want people to hate me or blame . What do you think will treat others as bad as I was. They do not always blame me , even when I'm not there, you can

  • 7What kind of problems are there if you have two insurance companys (state farm / AAA) do they create problems?

    What kind of problems are there if you have two insurance companies ( State Farm / AAA ) will create problems ?

  • 8I have a family member who is a drug addict (pills). I need advice on how my family and I can help?

  • 9Does my family have to file seperate claims for an accident or can we file as a family?

    My family and I (husband &3 kids) were in a car accident in August of 2006. I was the only one hurt in the collision and have had a hard time witth the driver-at-fault car insurance company. Should I file a claim for all 5 of us or do we file seperate. I am not trying to scam these people, but we lost a snake, suitcases, baby stroller, $7300 in damages to my truck (they only paid $5200 for damages, I had to pay for my rental car for almost $600. AND i lost out on almost $1700 in lost wages, plus they took the rental car before our truck was out of the shop so my kids couldn't go to school and letter was sent to me informing me they were going to refer me to Social Services and Juevinile Probation! It has been almost a year and then they told me to send them my medical records......I thought that was something they had to request and pay for? I sent them a settlement demand letter today requesting they settle for $18,000 for all 5 of us............Too much?

  • 10Help with my mother in law?

    I honestly don't know what to do. My boyfriend and I have been together for 7 years and plan to get married this summer and we have two children together. And since the beginning of our relationship I have had problems with her with I could deal with before but know that we have kids I just can't take it anymore. What really pushed me over the edge was last year when we where living in their unfinished basement of their 6000 sq ft house (since we weren't allowed to take a bedroom since they didn't want us to wreck the floor) while trying to get a house of our own, our two pomeranians were not allowed in their house because they were not fixed and my in laws said the dogs would ruin the house, even though we gave them one of the puppies that our dogs had and that one was in the house and defecated and urinated all over the house and would bark non stop, well one day while i was at work and my dogs where out in their cages in the garage in middle of the summer somehow my bright red dog got out of his cage and my mother in law must not have seen he was out and went to leave in her car ( to see her husband since he works in the neighborhood) and somehow my dog was in the road and she hit him and he died. I got the phone call at work and came straight home only to be told by my father in law that i HAD to tell my mother in law (who was hiding in between the back seats of her car) that it was okay that she ran over my dog and that i was not mad at her. And still to this day we can not talk about my dog because "it upsets her too much" and if we do say something to her about it she runs to her husband and tell him we said something so he calls my boyfriend and yells at him for bringing it up. And the biggest problem that I have with her is with my children. I do not speak to my mother because she is an alcoholic, so I wanted my children to at least have one grandma so I tried to get over all the issues but I can't. When she had her two kids they NEVER were put into car seat she just held them until they were too big, then they just roamed the car, and she has tried to let that happen with my son, I have told her no on multiple occasions and one time my son had an accident in the car and i left his extra clothes at her house so i took off his pants and underwear and wrapped his bottom with my sweatshirt and strapped him in the car seat since we were 5 minutes from her house. My son was upset because of the accident and not having extra clothes so he was kinda throwing a fit about getting it the seat and my mother in law says oh well leave him in the back with her other son and she will drive home as fast as she can, but i strapped him in anyway, and went to walk around the car to get in the front seat and when i got in her ten year old was trying to unstrap his car seat and my MIL knew it and didn't say anything so i had to tell him to leave my son alone, he is fine. And another occasion while my son and i were with her he was upset about being in the seat so long so she stopped the car and asked me to let him sit in the back seat, without a car seat, and i told her no. but I think that she lets him when I am not around because after he comes home from her house he refuses to sit in his car seat and she does not put a winter jacket on my son, she thinks putting a blanket on him is sufficient enough, or she will take off his jacket when we get into the car, even though he is fine with it on. Another thing is that she lets my son sleep in bed with her when he sleeps over, which he sleeps in his own bed at our house. (Her eleven year old son is still sleeping in their bed and she still wipes his butt after he has a bowel movement). And the worst of it all is that she obsesses over my son's pee pee. She will always offer to take him to the bathroom or give him a bath in with after wards she is always examining his pee pee and touching it. Even her own husbands agrees. I have not confronted her about it, i just try and take my son to the bathroom or not let him take a bath while we are there, because i know if i do she will just run to her husband who will just call and yell at my boyfriend which is the last thing he needs (working 53 hours a week at full time job, also being a paid on call firefighter for our town, and taking classes to further his career as a firefighter) And I don't appreciate her making all her little comments towards me trying to make me feel like i am not a good mom. She is somewhat a hoarder and has just about every toy from both of her two sons. She lets my son play with the toys and sometimes take them home, but says she wants it back, she comes to our house she goes to his room and goes through all his toys taking what are hers and sometimes even taking toys that aren't to bring back to her house, and i have told her to stop letting him bring home toys but she does it anyway. I don't know what to do to stop her but still let my kids have a re

  • 11Mother-In-Law problem.?

    I have a young son who is starting to get his teeth, but they haven't broken through yet. My mother in law, for some reason, feels the need to stick her fingers in his mouth to feel his how much he has progressed. She has also put her fingers in his diaper to "feel if he's wet" after i told her I just changed him! It irritates me so much I feel like dis-owning her but I feel like I shouldn't say anything because she had a motorcycle accident, and she is now going through surgery for breast cancer. I am his mother, if anyone needs to be sticking their fingers in his mouth, it's ME! She just seems to disregard anything I say, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. When my son was still inside me, she came with me to the doctor's office for the anatomy ultrasound. She made a comment about my son's penis comparing it to my nephew's saying my nephew's was bigger. Needs no comment. I've talked to my husband and he says "I don't know what to tell you". Any suggestions?? she's drivin me nutz

  • 12Mother In Law Issues??

    My mom husbands can not get along with me for some reason. She has lied constantly doing that often separate us , but we got back together and every time she hates him . When I was 8 months pregnate with this child and I had our 1 yr old son who had gotten into a car accident and taken to the hospital so that when we went to look was furious with me when I picked him up to take him caused a great arguement in the van with my husband and stepmother . She can scream and get in my face and almost made me go to work . When I try to be nice to my husband she returns and tells more lies saying I shouted . Whenever she has our child something goes wrong . She always gets into fights in front of him and has no respect for me . Is it a bad thing that prevents him from being with my son and the baby alone ? With this new baby is bad for me I do not want in the hospital when she is causing chaos ? What is the best way to handle someone like her ?